If it's not making you better, it isn't love. True love makes you more of who you are, not less. - Mandy Hale (If thats the case i think i must only be capable of 'loving' myself. I always lose who i am in the place of girlfriend or lover.
(The girl who seemed unbreakable broke, the girl who always laughed cried, the girl who never stop trying finally gave up. She dropped a fake smile as a tear ran down her cheek and she whispered to herself "I can't do this anymore" ~ Unknown)
That is so important. Love is never deceitful. It isn't deceitful to your spouse. And it isn't deceitful to your children. If there is deceit in a relationship, it is not true love, rather it is self-serving and selfish for personal gain.
I''m still confused. I've always been confused about love. Does that mean I never had real love? My love was real anyway. Maybe "real" should be replaced by "healthy." But my guess is I'll be confused by healthy love, too, since I never had it.