Last night I thought of something I wish I had said to one of my clients. I imagined emailing her. And I thought about why I am not going to do that.  Therapy gives us a particular kind of holding that allows us to do new things we haven’t done before. In the room, in each moment, we have the opportunity to turn back to the holding therapist for grounding. This holding is essential for the work of change.  #therapy #mentalhealth #workingwithatherapist #psychotherapy

I didn’t email my client

I didn’t email my client – Thinking About Psychotherapy – Medium

Anytime anxiety rises and/or we feel uncomfortable, something is happening. It is a sign that we are on the edge of something. Language is a safe place for many (although not all) of us. Ideas are interesting, our words entertain and engage, we are thinking and being all at the same time. When language stops, what is happening?  #therapy #mentalhealth

What is happening in those awkward silences?

What is happening in those awkward silences? – Thinking About Psychotherapy – Medium

As long as we look to the circumstances of our world and our life to change something inside of us we will remain fractured.  When we want to change our experience of our lives we have to attend to our experience. We have to pay attention to ourselves in a painstaking and sustained way.

When we want to change our experience of our lives we have to attend to our experience.

Hopelessness - how do you see it?  #therapy

Take good care to combat compassion fatigue.we can instead choose to create a culture that supports well-being and where our values of compassion towards animals extends to the human animals around us as well" Credit : Jessica Dolce

This is our productive and healing response to abuse in all its forms. We listen. We hear. We respond. And in so doing we love in places where love has not been before. #therapy

Cliff, tree, fog and rock HD photo by Tiago Muraro ( on Unsplash

Abuse is a subtle thing, obvious only from the outside.

Cliff, tree, fog and rock HD photo by Tiago Muraro ( on Unsplash

I write this post to remind me and remind you to take the time to integrate learning and growth. To give what you have planted the chance to become something new.  I know it’s more complicated than this. That more insights will be found on this topic. And right now I am integrating – letting rather than pushing. More thoughts are in the future, not the present.  Let’s not prod the soil. Let’s let the sun shine and watch it grow.

I write this post to remind me and remind you to take the time to integrate learning and growth. To give what is planted the chance to become something new.

Everyone has a shadow.  What is a shadow?  It’s the part of ourselves that we don’t want to own.  It’s the part of ourselves that we are not aware of.  Therapists have them too.  Of course.

Everyone has a shadow. What is a shadow? It’s the part of ourselves that we are not aware of. Therapists have them too. Of course.

There is so much to know and learning is so exciting, particularly now when almost anything can be learned from anywhere in the world.  And then there is another kind of learning. A learning where we take ourselves and each other in.  Where we come to understand ourselves. To locate ourselves in our lives. And to take hold of ourselves in our lives.  And then to take hold of others – to stand up with solidity and care and express what we see.

Where “logical" people go wrong is by not accounting for what they do not understand.

It’s one of the most common reasons people seek help. I think people feel more comfortable saying — “I have anxiety”, than they do “I’m depressed”, or, “I don’t know what’s happening.” If you have anxiety you are busy, overworked, stressed — the disease of our age. Anxiety is often the first line of defense. Usually, when people say they have anxiety they mean they are worrying a lot. And they mean they have tightness in their chest that sometimes rises to the level of panic. When we worry…

What is anxiety? It’s more profound than you might think.

I think people feel more comfortable saying — “I have anxiety”, than they do “I’m depressed”, or, “I don’t know what’s happening.” Usually, when people say they have anxiety they mean they are…

If women are not free to love, everyone has a mothering problem.  Everyone has a mothering problem.  Women are not free to love.

If women are not free to love, everyone has a mothering problem. Everyone has a mothering problem. Women are not free to love.

Listening is raw and active. When we listen we allow the speaker to lead us across the terrain of their inner world and ours. Listening costs something. It requires something. And it is new every moment in the doing of it.

Listening Hurts — A Therapist’s View

Listening Hurts — A Therapist’s View – Thinking About Psychotherapy – Medium

Drama vs.Dilemma via thegoodtherapists.com  "And each of us has stories. But we also live dilemmas. Tensions between life and death, beginnings and endings, fury and love. They’re all in us all the time and every moment is some kind of choice in response. And the stories never end – there is no tidy finish – only a new chapter."  #therapy #emotions

Watching a movie about the Cuban Missile Crisis shows you a drama. Reading about it shows you a dilemma.

Ultimate Holiday Guide #therapy #emotions

I received an “Ultimate Holiday Guide” by email from a business I patronize from time to time. It made me physically sick. Every single suggestion involved a purchase from them.

21 reasons why I am not in pain

Sanskrit Word of the Week Purushottama: Purusha, Spirit + Uttama, the highest. The highest light. Name of Krishna.

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