Lets ask God what distraction we need to distance ourselves from in order to grow closer to Him and then lets do the hard and holy work of denying ourselves. Because a deeper level of intimacy with Him will always be worth the cost.
God exposes sin not to shame us but to change us. Oh, the glorious and wonderful love of God! There is no shame in admitting your sin and accepting the discipline of God. God isn't looking to shame us and make us feel worthless!
I was once told you need to let die and morn the loss of what you had envisioned this life (being a stepmom) would be like so you can start to find peace in what it is actually like. That was about 3 years ago and it changed my life.