I've read so many Hemingway biography's and so many of his novels, and short stories . and just things about his life, as well as his death (I have the book, "Final Drafts") . so I can actually find the irony in this statement.
To the man who says nothing directly to the woman he claims to love, refuses to prove how he feels, and tells lies. Bob Marley - The biggest coward is the man who awakens a womans love with no intention of loving her.
Don't beat yourself up for not being able to realize who he really was from the beginning. At one time or another we all fall victim to an illusion. Stay true to who you are and what you truly want and things will fall into place.