Okay so why do I yell at the screen for the people in horror movies NOT to open that door or NOT to go into the house when I'd do exactly the same thing? Curiosity killed the clown.well you know what I mean. Would you sit next to that clown?
Trying to fill in someone else's shoes is futile. The person will at best be a shadow of the one who shoes they are trying to fill. It is best to have new shoes (their own) rather than live in the shadow of another