Self absorbed people only think about what makes them feel good at the moment - they don't have any respect or regard for anyone else. Then they wonder why their relationships fail. Amen I don't like selfish people so much!
I think Dr. Phil is a phony, pompous ass but I do agree with this particular quote. At my age, I've finally learned what other people think about me is their problem, not mine. Don't change for anyone. Always be yourself!