Islam is no more unvaried than Christianity. Just as there are denominations in Christianity, Islam has its variations. Condemnations of all members of any given religion must paint with a pretty broad brush to encompass all the permutations.
The 'ending' gender roles I don't like, because most kids and adults fit well in their gender roles and we can mske room for the outliers. But if you wont be happy untill gender roles are ended you will never be happy.