Autism, parents, checklist, (ignore the 2013 bit) - a good perspective into what these parents have on their plates. Parents please note - it recommends "You time" as well, plus time & space away from the all consuming world of Autism.
Knowing the difference between tantrums and sensory meltdown helps you better respond. "To tame tantrums, acknowledge what your child needs without giving in. - To manage a meltdown, help your child find a safe, quiet place to de-escalate.