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Codependency develops because you have to abandon yourself and your needs in order to keep the relationship going. As a child, you have no choice but to prioritize the relationship over yourself because you feel you’ll die otherwise. Mental Health, Toxic People, Narcissistic Abuse, Parenting Fail, Codependency, Resentments, Dysfunctional Family, How To Know, How Are You Feeling
How to know if you struggle with codependency
Codependency develops because you have to abandon yourself and your needs in order to keep the relationship going. As a child, you have no choice but to prioritize the relationship over yourself because you feel you’ll die otherwise.
Imposter syndrome is the feeling you're not as competent as other people believe you to be. It makes us believe we've achieved great things through luck instead of skill. And that others will discover we're not as capable as they think we are. People, Comparing Yourself To Others, Childhood Trauma, Trauma, Competence, Stop Comparing, Syndrome
How to overcome imposter syndrome (and what it is)
Imposter syndrome is the feeling you're not as competent as other people believe you to be. It makes us believe we've achieved great things through luck instead of skill. And that others will discover we're not as capable as they think we are.
Society and the families within it (which often mirror the culture), have a twisted way of protecting perpetrators of abuse. In an effort to guard themselves from what they don't want to hear, they discredit the victim. If you have suffered this insidious type of add-on abuse, you know it can be more traumatizing than the abuse itself. Feelings, Knowing You, Shit Happens, Mental, Overcoming
How to overcome the trauma of feeling invalidated — Laura K. Connell
Society and the families within it (which often mirror the culture), have a twisted way of protecting perpetrators of abuse. In an effort to guard themselves from what they don't want to hear, they discredit the victim. If you have suffered this insidious type of add-on abuse, you know it can be more traumatizing than the abuse itself.
When you grow up with childhood trauma, the pain you experience is overwhelming. Addictions give you an escape from the pain. You use them for the short-term benefits even though the long-term consequences are well-known to you. Coping Mechanisms, Consequences, Addiction, Understanding
How to understand addiction as a coping mechanism — Laura K. Connell
When you grow up with childhood trauma, the pain you experience is overwhelming. Addictions give you an escape from the pain. You use them for the short-term benefits even though the long-term consequences are well-known to you.
When you feel a compulsion to act and make decisions rashly, that’s a red flag. Because of your past, it feels impossible to resist the urge to do something to change your state. However, attending to yourself and your nervous system is your first priority. Decisions, Compulsion, Nervous, Self Care
How to make decisions from your highest self — Laura K. Connell
When you feel a compulsion to act and make decisions rashly, that’s a red flag. Because of your past, it feels impossible to resist the urge to do something to change your state. However, attending to yourself and your nervous system is your first priority.
When you feel a compulsion to act and make decisions rashly, that’s a red flag. Because of your past, it feels impossible to resist the urge to do something to change your state. However, attending to yourself and your nervous system is your first priority.
How to make decisions from your highest self — Laura K. Connell
When you feel a compulsion to act and make decisions rashly, that’s a red flag. Because of your past, it feels impossible to resist the urge to do something to change your state. However, attending to yourself and your nervous system is your first priority.
Brené Brown says guilt is useful because it tells you when you’ve done something wrong. However, for those raised in homes with abuse and neglect, guilt can be a conditioned response. Rather than telling you when you’ve done something wrong, guilt is your go-to because feeling wrong is so familiar to you. Dealing With Guilt, Toxic Family Members, Toxic Family, Self Help, Complex Ptsd, Ptsd, Guilt, Neglect
How to deal with guilt feelings and where they come from — Laura K. Connell
Brené Brown says guilt is useful because it tells you when you’ve done something wrong. However, for those raised in homes with abuse and neglect, guilt can be a conditioned response. Rather than telling you when you’ve done something wrong, guilt is your go-to because feeling wrong is so familiar to you.
Find out how your childhood experiences have impacted created self-sabotage and how to heal. Even if you've tried everything. $100 gift when you get this acclaimed guide to help readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back. Reading, Subconscious, Readers, Reasons, Self
How childhood trauma creates self-sabotage
Find out how your childhood experiences have impacted created self-sabotage and how to heal. Even if you've tried everything. $100 gift when you get this acclaimed guide to help readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back.
One outcome of growing up in a home with abuse or neglect is feeling alone in the world. Instead of an inner child who is playful and curious about the world, yours developed hypervigilance and the adult task of taking care of you. You may have spent most of your time in survival mode which makes it difficult to form satisfying relationships. Relationships, Feeling Alone, Take Care Of Yourself, Inner Child
How to stop feeling alone and lonely — Laura K. Connell
One outcome of growing up in a home with abuse or neglect is feeling alone in the world. Instead of an inner child who is playful and curious about the world, yours developed hypervigilance and the adult task of taking care of you. You may have spent most of your time in survival mode which makes it difficult to form satisfying relationships.
If you grew up in a home with abuse or neglect, you would be a prime candidate for social anxiety later on. If your parents or caregivers made you feel unaccepted, it will be difficult to believe others will accept you. Parents, Self Compassion, Getting To Know You, Parenting
How to overcome social anxiety from childhood trauma — Laura K. Connell
If you grew up in a home with abuse or neglect, you would be a prime candidate for social anxiety later on. If your parents or caregivers made you feel unaccepted, it will be difficult to believe others will accept you.
When experts tell us to practice self-kindness, they often misunderstand how difficult that is. If you’ve grown up with unmet needs, how to be nice to yourself can feel elusive. Nice, Mindfulness, Subconscious Mind
Why it's so hard to be nice to yourself — Laura K. Connell
When experts tell us to practice self-kindness, they often misunderstand how difficult that is. If you’ve grown up with unmet needs, how to be nice to yourself can feel elusive.
Telling yourself you shouldn’t feel a certain way and rushing to change your thoughts says you have no right to feel exactly the way you do. It invalidates your emotions and puts you at war with yourself. Rather than comforting and supporting yourself through difficult feelings, you scold yourself for having them. Sayings, Love, Tough Love, You Changed, Supportive
Why tough love never works
Telling yourself you shouldn’t feel a certain way and rushing to change your thoughts says you have no right to feel exactly the way you do. It invalidates your emotions and puts you at war with yourself. Rather than comforting and supporting yourself through difficult feelings, you scold yourself for having them.
The family singles out one person to take the blame for all the problems in the family. Rather than look at themselves, the family points a collective finger at the scapegoat. This allows them to carry on in their dysfunctional patterns without changing. Dealing With A Narcissist, Family Scapegoat, Dysfunctional Family System, Scapegoat, Dysfunctional Family Roles, Emotional Abuse
Are you the family scapegoat? Here are 9 signs — Laura K. Connell
The family singles out one person to take the blame for all the problems in the family. Rather than look at themselves, the family points a collective finger at the scapegoat. This allows them to carry on in their dysfunctional patterns without changing.
parenting complex ptsd Parent Support, Abusive Parents, Good Parenting, Emotional Honesty
How to parent when you have complex PTSD — Laura K. Connell
5 CHALLENGES FOR THE PARENT WITH COMPLEX PTSD You don’t have a model for parenting If you grew up with abusive or neglectful parents, you have no model for how to parent effectively. Even if you want to do the right thing for your children, you may struggle to know what that is.
dysfunctional family roles quiz Play, Family Roles, Dysfunctional
Take the quiz to find our your role in the dysfunctional family
Are you the family scapegoat, mascot, or lost child? Take this short quiz to find out the role you play in the dysfunctional family and what to do about it.