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If you grew up in a family like mine, you probably never learned the art of standing up for yourself. In fact, you learned the opposite: how to suppress your needs in favor of others. Read on for how to stand up for yourself even when it's hard.
A brain in survival mode resorts to black and white thinking to keep you safe. It needs clear answers and cannot tolerate ambiguity because that feels dangerous. Read more for strategies on overcoming black and white thinking.
You may be surprised to learn your inner critic is often the internalized voice of your parents and caregivers. You grew up telling yourself that if you could only be quiet enough, perfect enough, funny enough, or pleasing enough, you’d win your them over. How to silence your inner critic.
When I started a morning meditation practice (literally sitting there doing nothing), money began to appear. My biggest windfalls arrived, not from extra effort, but from releasing and making space to receive. That’s the opposite of what we’re taught, which is that success comes from pushing harder.
Loss of innocence in childhood affects us deeply as adults. We never felt the protection and care that allowed us to explore the world confidently, so we feel anxious and fearful and rarely let down our guard. Now that we’re adults we can reparent ourselves and take care of the inner child whose needs went unmet in the past.
As you travel on your healing journey, that “go with the flow” mentality may not work for you anymore. You will become more active in your desire to have your needs met and more confident in expressing those needs through self-advocacy.
You’ve probably heard the common advice around procrastination. You need better habits and more willpower, or “just do it”. If you’ve been through childhood trauma, however, procrastination feels more painful and difficult to overcome.
The key to fulfilling your heart’s desires is to focus on what you want. It’s human nature to worry about what we don’t have, be it money, success, or love. However, bringing attention to things you don’t want only creates more of the same.